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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please help me explain this odd behavior. My children's nanny just text me to inform me that my mother-in-law is following her around the house, turning lights off, monitoring the water usage in the kitchen, and just basically in the nanny's face the whole day. Do I sit down and talk to mother-in-law why she's doing this or just let my husband handle it? Mother-in-law is a nice person but I do feel bad that, The Nanny has to deal  with this odd behavior all day.[/quote]

It’s a two prong issue.

Your nanny had a free reign but now she has supervision. She isn’t happy about it.

Your MIL is new here and monitoring hired help and protecting her family because she had had/heard bad experiences with hired help. She is also trying to be productive and contributing in some way.

You all can have a respectful discussion so she understands without feeling disciplined. Appreciate her in other ways so she knows you are trying to solve a problem but doesn’t have a problem with her.

Talk sympathetically to your nanny and request her to have empathy for an old lady who is facing cultural differences and struggling to adjust to a completely different lifestyle in a new country.[/quote]

+1  Sympathy for both will go a long way.  Your MIL has just made a tremendous life change.  Surely you can show a little grace in talking to her and helping her find ways to fill her day.  And your nanny sounds lovely.  Be encouraging to her, let her know you are working to get the MIL to have different hobbies, and assure your nanny that she is doing a great job.[/quote]
WTF? 
“Nanny has supervision”? Who asked for anyone to supervise her? If you don’t trust someone to care for your kids without someone looking over their shoulder then you have no business hiring that person.
No nanny worth her salt is going to put up with an interfering grandma. MIL needs to stay in her lane.[/quote]

Well, many people supervise with home cameras, how is this and different? Btw if MIL can’t speak English, how is she managing meddling?[/quote]

Did you read the OP? It was clearly explained and no English was necessary.[/quote]

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