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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We were at the ice skating rink yesterday, and my seven year old DD noticed that [b]every single one [/b]of her classmates were at a birthday party in the "party room." Some of the kids waved to her. The parent of the birthday girl said sternly, "She is not invited."

We have never had a problem with this family (we barely even know them) and I don't know why they would exclude her like that when they clearly had no problem inviting every other child in the class. She was humiliated and saddened.

When we went home, she told DH, "Everyone in my class was at a birthday party at the rink, but not me. I couldn't go because I wasn't invited."

I have NO idea how to comfort her. I told her, "Kids can be exclusive... You just have to make other friends," but I didn't feel that was particularly convincing. What should I do/say??? [/quote]

I'm a bit confused how you know the other parent said "she's not invited" and said it "sternly" because you said they were inside the party room. Do you read lips?[/quote]

I'm not the OP, but this is what I hate about DCUM -- this sort of "let me play prosecutor" and rip apart your post and turn your own words against you.  I mean really, what the fuck?[/quote]

ITA! It doesn't help anything. No one can ever have the benefit of the doubt. Maybe it makes those posters feel better about themselves somehow. [/quote]

Sadly, it has come to this. Remember the crazy story last fall (or whenever it was) about the mom who rushed her child to the ER from the playground and the whole thing turned out to be a hoax? It makes me question ANY story that doesn't add up and for some reason, this one doesn't.[/quote]

Yes, there are things about this post that don't add up, like why the child was at the ice skating rink on the day of the party in the first place.  But OP's inability to lip read does not number among the suspicious items.  The question was just absurd and mean-spirited.  It's one thing to probe a post to see if it's genuine.  It's another thing entirely to take what is, in essence, a summary of events and then go back and hold the OP to the literal terms of her account.  People post a brief account for readability.  I mean, thank god -- who wants to read a deposition of every twist and turn?[/quote]

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