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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a White sahm and curious why it’s so rare in the Indian community. If your DH makes enough as a ‘physician/banker/attorney’ why not sahm for a few years at least? I don’t get the shame in it.[/quote]

I also don’t think it’s shameful in the least, however Indian woman who are older had very little choice in their lives and often had to make great sacrifices. They want THEIR daughters to shoot for the stars. My MIL is Indian and is still bitter about all she had to give up. [/quote]

+1 my mom was a SAHM and she'd never want me to be. She'd be really disappointed frankly. Too many opportunities they worked hard to provide me with and so much education they paid for...[/quote]

But what about spending the early years enriching a child rather than sending them to a daycare with underpaid young poor women?[/quote]

We don't send the kids to KinderCare - We had a nanny with a BA in childhood education. I can't speak for the desi culture but in mine, care by professionals or maternal grandparents is considered the best. There are things that are acceptable in the American culture - formula, pacifiers, CIO - that are deal breakers there. Giving your child formula makes you a bad mom, but leaving the baby with the nanny or grandparents to go take care of yourself is encouraged and admired. It's a totally different mindset.   [/quote]

Um, what? You are totally wrong about formula, pacifiers, CIO. My mom and her friends encouraged all of those things, LOL. My kids went to an in-home daycare, then they went to preschool. That's pretty typical among the Indian-American families I know.[/quote]

Why no CIO? How does a dual income family make it with no sleep? [/quote]

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