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[quote=Anonymous]OP again. I had mentioned in another thread that I hospiced my Aunt, who had pancreatic cancer. One thing for ALL of you to take into consideration: the elderly don’t often think rationally, and therefore don’t really even take into consideration, how badly their decisions affect others. All she wanted to do was stay home/die at home. That could have been easily done had she (a) money (b) other family that came to help. As it was, she had neither and it was just me. There was no physical way I could medicate every hour around the clock, feed, diaper, etc. on my own. It never occurred to her (understandably) the huge burden, physical and emotional, that put on me. Hospice came max three times per week to help, for 45 minutes each time. When she was finally taken inpatient, it turned out the tumors were blocking her bladder output, creating a toxic situation. Doctor there remedied that, despite a DNR, and Medicare would only pay for 5 days inpatient. Then the bullying started by the inpatient hospice social worker that I take her home. That was physically impossible for me. I had already been away for 1.75 months, had shuttered my own business during that time, etc. I chose to go home as I was on the verge of physical collapse. She survived another month in the hospice center, which was non-profit, so took donations. Even after coming home I was fielding calls from the social worker until I told her to stop calling me, to call my cousin who had medical POA. I don’t blame my aunt - it’s not her fault she got cancer - but there is NO way one person can do something like this alone. [/quote]

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