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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My ILs buy our daughter (2) various gifts. While generous, all the gifts are baby dolls and baby strollers and the like. Some cooking toys. Anyway, she’ll push the stroller and they’ll tell her, “Aww, Larla, you’ll make such a good mommy.” It drives me nuts. I want to take her outside at times when they’re over (to play) and they always say it’s too cold. [/quote]
How many hours a week are in-laws at your house?[/quote]

Several.[/quote]
Like 2? Or 10?[/quote]

Every Sunday for at least 3 hours. Then childcare 1-2x a week.[/quote]

So they are ok to use for childcare.  But they can’t pick out toys?  Got it. [/quote]

Never said that. [/quote]
You said every Sunday + childcare 1 - 2x a week. Sounds like you’re depending on their help. Your criticism of them doesn’t seem to be a big deal. Is that your biggest complaint? Are you paying them 25/hr or is it free babysitting?[/quote]

Yes, it’s free. My biggest complaint is that it’s ONLY girl toys and I don’t like the way they talk around DD.[/quote]

What's wrong with "girl" toys?  Honest question.  Are they somehow inferior?  I have plenty of "girl" toys for my boys because they like them better sometimes (the stroller, and the kitchen, for starters but also the purse because I always have a purse with me).  I hate this whole script of girl toys somehow being inferior and when someone tells a little girl she'll make a good mommy one day there has to be a reply that she will also make a good lawyer one day.  Like- fine- of course she might.  But the response seems to be under the assumption that being a mommy one day is somehow not enough, or lesser.  What the hell is wrong with being a mother???[/quote]

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