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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She's angry you all are moving and has decided to lash out at you instead of her son. [/quote]

I think it’s this. [/quote]

I do too....oh these psychologically unsophisticated mother in laws....they're a lot. I think deep down feels envious or excluded or rejected, etc. These are her feelings, op, that have been simmering as she said. She has judged you for awhile but you did not know, I am sorry you are going through it. I eventually realized something similar about my mil. It took years to work through and accept which sounds crazy but it really hurt. Be cordial, accept her as a grandmother and just distance from her personally and from her personality which is probably a difficult one, but I can't say for sure. . I think your husband should talk to her, she attacked you and projected her idea of your motives and she was wrong. She could be told that by him. Take care of yourself, focus on kind people in your life and don't give her too much power. You know who you are.  She showed you who she can be which is reactive and intense. It's his mother, have him take lead with her. See her role more as a grandmother and mother to your spouse. That's what brought me peace, but my mother in law was more chronically judgmental and mean-spirited (indirectly)but  over time maybe yours will apologize, but I would erect space to protect myself. You're not alone, just take the high road. (Distant high road!)[/quote]

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