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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can you post on the Money forum asking about a "reverse mortgage"?  This may help out the family situation overall.[/quote]
They won’t do it. Reasons unknown and unexpressed.

I had my mother on the phone the other day. If my father passed, she would move back cross country immediately and so would my sister. My father will not but would be willing to move to my Aunt’s house nearby. My mother said absolutely not because ‘the neighbors are nosy and she doesn’t like the neighborhood’. It’s perfectly fine   :roll:

I spoke with my brother, who actually agreed with me - he doesn’t care about an inheritance (he’s got a great job now and believes in fixing his own life). I will talk to my sister this weekend. Husband and I decided that a LEGAL loan of 100K after we sell my aunt’s home, to be paid in full upon the sale of their home, is probably going to be the best plan if the stubbornness continues. My sister will probably have a fit as it reduces her inheritance, which she is counting on. Since she is also balking at any sort of move, I’m not really caring much about that.

My mother’s short term is definitely affected as a result of her stroke.  Her response to needing help was “we’ll hire someone in”. I asked her “with what?” . She said ‘Medicare will pay for daily help’. I reminded her they will not (again). The sad thing is she’s still really enjoyable to be around and we have a lot of fun together. She is SO frustrated with my Dad. We are also strongly considering getting power of attorney over my Dad so he is forced to leave the area. Once in my beach home, he will be VERY happy as he does love it there.

One stubborn elder is hard. Two is harder. My sister is afraid to relocate as well,  but understands it’s the best thing at this point. She knows I will help her get re-established.[/quote]

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