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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think they are more mature when younger and more independent.  When they are teens they tend to be very awkward and a bit annoying to other kids.  They don't seem to grasp social dynamics as well.  It can be that way into college but then they seem to even out a bit.  I [b]have teens/college now and 9 times out of 10 I can tell an only on first interaction. [/b][/quote]

Which is fine because 9 times out of 10 I can tell if a kid grew up extremely privileged. Or if a child grew up with a dysfunctional family. Or if they grew up in an evangelical home. Or whatever.

The problem with this question is that  many posters with multiple kids are ignoring all the ways in which their parenting style and home life are shaping their own kids.

It's not as though the very key to having a successful child is to provide them siblings. [/quote]

And really the part that matters most is giving your kid a function family and having functional, healthy relationships with them. I grew up with siblings in a family with a ton of dysfunction, and the all that means is that I have difficult relationships with my parents AND my adult siblings now. I am the third and I've often wondered if my family would have been better off if my parents had stopped after two, not because I'm a burden or there is anything wrong with me (I am glad I exist) but because my parents were in waaaaay over their heads and I sometimes think that with more financial resources and time they might have been able to figure it out and provide my older siblings with a healthier upbringing.

I've always had TONS of peer conflict, despite having multiple siblings. My parents did not facilitate good relationships (they would often pit us against each other by being withholding and judgmental and constantly comparing us to one another). If you are bad parents, having more kids is not going to make up for that! It will just make it worse.[/quote]

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