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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I won't contribute anything [b]unless we are getting paid back out of the house sale [/b]when they pass. That's my only offer on the table financially. [/quote]

OP, my advice to you is to take that offer off the table.  You say you are not dealing with rational parents.  If your parents were capable of being rational, that would be a fine offer.

But what they are hearing in your offer is this:  "Daughter is financially able to take care of us the way we want right now."  And they just aren't moving away from this.  They aren't thinking about your financial needs down the road, just their own.

You need to refuse to pay ANYTHING.  Don't tell them they have to sell the house.  Just tell them that you cannot fund them.  Eventually SOMEONE will tell them they should sell the house to pay for their care.  but you don't have to be the bad guy.[/quote]

I've told them I can't fund them. Have not offered proceeds from the house - it's something husband and I have discussed. Sorry for the confusion. It's going to get interesting as house is in trust so nursing home, etc can't tap it. So they will be forced to go with Medicaid. And that's when decisions will have to be made. It just makes me sad and angry as it will be that much harder at that point, and didn't have to be.[/quote]

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