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[quote=Anonymous]No. But my spouse didn’t ask me to lose weight. He seemed to comment on attractive actresses, singers, fitness levels of other women. His friends would comment that certain women were hardbodies.

I was 175 when I met DH. I gradually lost weight, and was 140 when we married two years later. I dieted and exercised myself to 130. It wasn’t fun. It was hard work. I was hungry and tired much of the time. The worst was that DH never commented on my body. He’d say you look nice, but nothing regarding his attraction to me.

This made me very resentful, and somewhat depressed. I felt like not matter how hard I tried he was always going to find younger, thinner, fitter women more attractive. He doesn’t say they are attractive to me overtly, but it comes up in conversation.

I am back up to 160. I am happier. I don’t feel like I’m trying to compete - I’ve taken myself out of the race. FWIW we have a great sex life and marriage. Removing the striving to be thin issue has let me just live and be me. [/quote]

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