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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And it sounds that you are dating him for a very long time accumulating a resentment. Your relationship didn’t result in marriage after 7 years for a reason. He doesn’t feel you are his family. If this is not what you want just leave him [/quote]

We mutually do not want to remarry. I definitely don’t want to marry him, but I do love him. I have my own money luckily so that’s not an issue. I do resent that he will upend our time for something insignificant that she should be able to deal with on her own. It’s ridiculous. One time she went to dentist in her college town. Didn’t like the dentist. So he flew out to get her, brought her to childhood dentist, then flew her back. Birthdays are a 3-4 royal parade of events. I don’t share this values- that’s correct whoever mentioned that. When we are together we have so much fun though. He becomes kind of irrational when her “check engine” light comes on, or she needs OTC allergy medicine, for example. And she’s constantly out of money, needs all new furniture emergently, has to have tickets to whatever music festival is going on etc. Everything just comes to a screeching halt when she has a new need. I’m a mom to two kids- I get the need to take care of your kids. It just seems dysfunctional and interferes with his ability to be a decent, reliable companion.

So I guess the point is do I want to have a boyfriend who is like this or not. I wasn’t planning to break up with him over it. It’s annoying and I was just looking for insights from others. [/quote]

It doesn’t out of touch to me to fly get your daughter from college town for a dental visit if it was a serious dental surgery. The costs of such surgeries are way more than avia fare. If she was in paint it’s understandable he flew there. It sounds though as if he himself WANTS to spend more time with his daughter, misses this sense of a real family and thus spoils her

Maybe it’s time for you two think about a baby or adoption? He can have a family and this will shift his excessive attention to grown up daughter [/quote]

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