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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My son did this, too, off and on through 3 and into 4.  When I mentioned it to his preschool teachers and asked for insight they were flabbergasted because he is so obedient 100% of the time for them...and was for us 85% of the time, too.  But that 15%!  Whew.  Yes, consistency helps a lot.

But.  My kid was (and still is) just amped up by punishment and "just do it or else" stuff.  It just makes it so much worse.  Turns a momentary flare into a 2 hour ordeal.  And really, this "it wouldn't be allowed in my house" would have no natural end in my house - my kid is ready to take your time out and raise you a kicking fit.  Send him to his room and he will tear it apart.  Doing that (all of which I have done, BTW, until I learned it didn't work to get the best behavior out of him) ended up with physical restraint to assert my control over him.  It was the only thing that did work to assert my control.  And I realized [b]I shouldn't be fighting to control my kid.  I should be teaching him to control HIMSELF.  And since that other stuff didn't do that - he lost control, instead - I've used other methods now.  I set him up to maintain his control, steer him when he begins to lose it, and when he very rarely now does lose control help him make it quick by giving him my understanding.[/b]Would it work for every kid?  I'm sure not.  But it works for my high strung kid, and I hear everyday from teachers, coaches and friends what a good kid he is, so don't knock it.  [/quote]

21:20 here.  What you wrote is helpful.  I'd love to hear more details on what you're doing that's working.  Examples, language etc.[/quote]

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