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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People have different focuses.  I think when everyone has plenty of sleep and plenty of time, everything gets done.  When the sleep and the time get limited, people start to crack a little.  My SO would do dumb shit.  Like in your example, he would only do the yard work. [b] I hadn’t slept more than 3 hours in a row in months (due to bf)[/b] and you want a cookie and a pat on the back because the yard looks good?  How about, I don’t know, watching your kid so I can consistently shower or take a walk alone or whatever.[/quote]

Ok but that’s your choice.  I think a lot of the pain of having young kids is self inflicted.  There are so many moms who Moll themselves breastfeeding and don’t sleep train. Did your DH ask you to wake up every 3 hours to feed your kid?  I doubt it.  So it’s kind of silly to judge him.  I don’t want a miserable life so I don’t breastfeed and I sleep train at a young age.  [/quote]

Breastfeeding or not, no one is getting enough sleep when baby is 2 months old. Feeding bottles might help a little (my ex wouldn't even give a bottle - formula, pumped breastmilk, it didn't matter what was needed - if baby woke up it was my problem) but at 2 months old, babies are exhausting no matter how you feed them.

OP - I think this is when you need to realize that both of you are exhausted, fried, tired, and you might need to hire outside help. A postpartum doula might be a great help to you, or having your mom (or another helpful family member) come visit or stay a few weeks could really help. I'd also suggest trying to find a few minutes to reconnect with your husband and trying to spend some time enjoying each others company every day.

This period is really hard. It will pass one day at a time.[/quote]

Formula feed

Husband is in charge from 8 - 2 AM
Mom 2 Am - 8 AM

Everyone should get a 5 hour window of sleep.

Not that hard.  The end.  [/quote]

Who cares whether it’s formula or breast milk?  Would OP’s husband even take a night shift?  Based on the post it sounds like he won’t do the dishes at night, never mind change, feed, and resettle his child.[/quote]

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