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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People have different focuses.  I think when everyone has plenty of sleep and plenty of time, everything gets done.  When the sleep and the time get limited, people start to crack a little.  My SO would do dumb shit.  Like in your example, he would only do the yard work. [b] I hadn’t slept more than 3 hours in a row in months (due to bf)[/b] and you want a cookie and a pat on the back because the yard looks good?  How about, I don’t know, watching your kid so I can consistently shower or take a walk alone or whatever.[/quote]

Ok but that’s your choice.  I think a lot of the pain of having young kids is self inflicted.  There are so many moms who Moll themselves breastfeeding and don’t sleep train. Did your DH ask you to wake up every 3 hours to feed your kid?  I doubt it.  So it’s kind of silly to judge him.  I don’t want a miserable life so I don’t breastfeed and I sleep train at a young age.  [/quote]

What? DH may have not asked her to wake up but the baby sure did. If possible, breastfeeding is best. That poster was doing what was in the best interest of their child. DH should be supportive. [b]You sound selfish and lazy and that's why you don't breastfeed.[/b] Can't imagine what else you don't bother with at your child's expense. [/quote]

Wow.  You can call me selfish and lazy, but my child is happy and so am I.  I sleep 8-9 hours a night and have a great life.  I don’t see any point in breastfeeding and staying up all night with a kid.  It’s not like anyone has any idea years later which kids were breastfed and which kids screamed and cried all night because of it.

Regardless you missed the point.  Breastfeeding and tending to a kid all night is optional.  OP’s husband isn’t doing it, right?  OP doesn’t have to either.  Some men aren’t going to be that bothered that you’re exhausted because you’re doing something completely optional.

Of course I live my life like a man.  I sleep, value my career and have an active social life.  I don’t make my life harder by not sleep training or breastfeeding.  I would reconsider if there were a benefit, but I don’t see one. [/quote]

You have so much internal hatred towards women. You "live life like a man= sleep, valuing a career and an active social life" so to you being a woman means no sleep, no valued career, and no friends. There is never an indication in your posts that men should do more its always for women to do less, lest they "martyr" themselves on the cross of motherhood. Well, you only martyr if you are doing it yourself. If you have an active partner who sees the value in participating in providing safety, security, and love for children outside of their monetary contributions then you tend to have less problems. 
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I didn’t know that OP was a man?   [/quote]

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