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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do you mean she always plans outings with other ILS with just my husband? Are you not invited?[/quote]

So it’s always my husband and I, SIL, FIL. She never text us as a group. She only communicates with my husband. We do outings together. All 5 of us.

For example: with Christmas dinners, she makes the food and likes to plan everything. She texts my husband what she’s planning on doing. And the rest of us have no idea what’s going on. Another holiday she wanted us to go out of town. Instead of texting everyone, she decided only to text my husband about it. Asking him what he thinks. [/quote]

Is your husband mute and has no means of communicating with you? If he gets a text that says:
"For Christmas dinner, I am planning on making ham and I want you to bring fruit salad, then we'll all go to midnight mass," he can include you in that text chain, or he can say, "OK, let me talk things through with Carole and then we'll confirm what we'd like to do/bring."[/quote]

+1. If she is the hostess, why on earth do you care what she is making? You seem really overly invested in being mad at her.

My MIL communicates about 90% of the time with my husband. It is fine. It means I don’t have to manage plans with them. That said, my husband communicates with me. Like a few days ago, he said “mom was asking what our Easter plans are, will we go to their house.” I said “sure, I am assuming your mom will be ok with me inviting my dad like prior years, but I will call her to confirm before asking him.” So, now I owe her a phone call, but only because I want to confirm it is ok to include my dad (I’m 100% sure this is fine, but will still call her before I invite him). Many other holidays are just my husband calling her back to tell her we will be there, or we will host or whatever.

You are making a mountain out of a molehill.[/quote]

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