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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, don’t give that passive aggressive response. You will only feel bad later. Just go, smile, be part of the event and recognize that you are not as close as you thought. It’s ok.

I have found life ebbs and flows. You are family, have a good rapport when together, and your paths will continue to cross. Right now you are not as high on her list as she is on yours.

Life is long and you may find yourselves reconnected again at some point ( situational, geographically, emotionally.) Don’t burn that bridge. Hugs to you.[/quote]

This. Take the high road. Passive aggressive responses and guilt trips are distancing behavior. They make people not want to be around you. Go and see her. Be friendly. Catch up. Enjoy. She may feel like you don't have much in common but maybe after seeing you she will feel different. Just always take the high road. If people I like give me guilt trips I run for the hills. Nobody ever got closer to someone thanks to a guilt trip.[/quote]

and you know this woman is probably fending off other guilt trips from other people pressuring her to do things.

I've ghosted family when I've visited their locations because I am going to do activity that they aren't in to and they would complain because I wouldn't change my plans. I get more grief when I fit them in but still try to do what I want. Family always expect me to put them first and drop whatever I've planned to do. [/quote]

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