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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thank you to several who made astute observations and suggestions, and also called me on some of my thinking and assumptions.

I’m not in my cousin’s hometown so this isn’t about my cousin having a ton of family in the area - there are three of us. I was not selected for any 1:1 time. I overestimated my closeness.

And it’s ok, I will go to the gathering with what I’ve discovered is more than 75 people. I will hope to catch my cousin and say hello. I will move on and do so with more clarity about where I stand.

My cousin is a wonderful human being. I’ve come to terms that I’m not as close as I thought. The earth will continue to revolve around the sun. It will be ok.

Thanks again. It was helpful to hear your perspectives.  [/quote]

Yes, I can see all sides, and it's good that you are challenging some of your thinking. A couple of thoughts:

--It depends on how she handles it. If she says how absolutely bummed she is, then it does make up for the fact that she feels pulled. It also reinforces she feels as close to her as you do to her.

--That said, some people aren't that emotionally mature and pull away because they feel guilty, pressured, overwhelmed, etc.

--Even if you completely understand her POV, I disagree with posters saying to get over it. You can still feel disappointed even if you understand a situation. Don't just push it down.[/quote]

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