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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] [b]I suspect this was not the first time you drew family into your problems and then create/caused drama when they did not rescue you? [/b]Sibling may have just had enough and set up healthy limits for themselves. Everyone makes mistakes, and we can learn from them. You could take this Easter invitation as a new start - be warm and kind, if appropriate say you’re sorry for any issues you caused in the past and then - shut up about it. Will take time, but family estrangement can be resolved if both sides accept boundary limits and don’t push too hard. Don’t ask them to rescue you in the future. [/quote]

Op here - I rarely ask for help from my family or others, and certainly don't expect anyone to rescue me from anything. I'm also not a person who is prone to big crises - thank God. But in this one instance I did accept help that was offered. Again, I didn't ask my sibling for help - my sibling offered it. I also gave my sibling an opportunity to back out when I suggested I contact my own attorney and my sibling reacted that I was too impatient.

I offer this not be be defensive but rather to say that it is that very thing - that I rarely ask for help, that my sibling offered it but clearly wasn't serious about it, that my sibling was then callously flippant and then cut me off - is what hurts so badly and what I struggle to cope with.

Also sibling hasn't invited me to Easter, to clarify. I was invited by other family members; my sibling is not attending but holding a separate event to which my young children and I are the only family members not invited. [/quote]

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