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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Things have gotten worse at my school. Kids have gotten comfortable and spring is here. That means, there has been an uptick in outrageous behaviors. Today, I had to half drag a kindergarten student upstairs to the office because he started hitting/hicking us. This afternoon, the entire downstairs at my school had to listen to screaming from a pre-k kid who has been running laps around the school for the last few weeks. I also have a student who eats everything and anything under the sun. Thankfully her classmates tell me when this happens so I can fish it out of her mouth (today it was a twist tie and a cap eraser). My student with the huge behavior issues was absent today so it was a pretty calm day.

I've heard awful stories from the middle school. The admin is always busy with them so they rarely have time to help us out. We are exhausted and we still have two weeks left before spring break. Teachers call in sick so much due to the stress and exhaustion and there are no subs (who can blame them with these behavior issues?) And our school isn't even that bad compared to others I've heard about.[/quote]

Parents need to  be called to pick up their kids or to sit with them in class if they cannot  behave.  [/quote]

So they should just leave work every day to come to school? How realistic is that?[/quote]

Perhaps that will motivate them to actually parent their out of control kids and/or get them psychiatrist help so that they won’t have to keep missing work. Shrug.[/quote]

Wow you really hit the low end of DCUM. Shrug.

Gross. [/quote]

Sadly, this is exactly what I saw when I lived in the DMV. Parents who didn't want to parent their own kids. That is the source of the problem.[/quote]

There are also a lot of parents unable to parent their children.

For those who do t agree that parents are a HUGE part of the problem, why is there such a discrepancy in behavioral issues in high ses schools vs low ses schools?[/quote]

I work in an out of school time program for low income high school program and we also run a summer program (basically summer school but a little more fun). The students we work with have had a lot of people in their lives die. A LOT. Some parents, more grandparents and other relatives. They were stuck in crowded homes for a year or so. A pandemic isn't as fun when you share a bedroom with 3 other people and share a bathroom with 8 other people. Just extreme financial distress. Many of our students became either primary wage earners in their families, so they would log into virtual school, turn their camera off and go work a shift at RiteAid. A few of them were working in nursing homes or hospitals and saw a lot of people die. Some basically took on full care for siblings and cousins if their parents were working.

We don't really see bad behavior because we keep caseloads low and there is always someone around to really check in if a student is struggling. So for us it isn't, "You have your phone out AGAIN so you get detention." It's "you seem really checked out and i'm not used to you acting this way, you want to talk about what's going on?" We do see students who can be less engaged, more anxious, depressed, struggling with completing tasks, although we also have a bunch who are really on it. I've seen this a lot in low-income schools that kids are just expected to bounce back and not show emotion. Oh, your uncle got shot Saturday. So sorry, take a seat and do your work. COVID is similar, a good percentage of kids have really been through it. You watch 50 people die in a nurshing home over the course of 6 months, or you are home alone with your younger siblings while all of the older generation is in the hospital with COVID-that is going to mess a kid up. It absolutely makes sense that they are acting out and it absolutely makes sense that educators who are burned out from their own stuff and not getting extra support and resources are struggling to deal with them.[/quote]

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