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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a mental health professional and loved this article. There is a lot to like in gentle parenting but the ideas that parents should constantly disguise their emotional state is a big problem. There’s a world of difference between “you make mommy sad!” and a gauzy, cooing “it seems like you’re having such a good time hitting mommy in the face with your train’” type response. Also, the part about hitting the little sister was perfect example of the excesses/absurdity of the gentle parenting ethos. [/quote]

I’m sorry to say I’m disappointed that a mental health professional is so uninformed about the parenting approach that parents, maybe your clients, are trying to use.[/quote]

What I’m seeing is women who feel like they are something approaching monsters when they say something as un-gentle as “[b]that’s enough, Liam. Put grandma’s urn down now please[/b].” Like I said, there’s a lot to like about gentle parenting but to the extant that people are trying to emulate unrealistic gentle parenting influencers there is a downside. [/quote]

That statement is the "gentle parenting" approach! or trying that and if it doesn't work, you go and get the urn from the kid, it's not "WHY WOULD YOU THINK GRANDMA's URN IS A TOY. WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?" and shaming the child for doing something like that. Janet Lansbury talks about [b]holding the child's arms and saying "i'm not going to let you hit" versus "please stop hitting."[/b] [/quote]

For a 2 or 3 year old, the better words are "No hitting!"  Fewer words work better.  And if they do it again, pick them up and put them in their room.  [/quote]

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