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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I like reading “real talk”. If I wanted to be told my kid with a 1500 and a 3.9 and lots of AP classes who is nice but nothing special is definitely getting into Harvard, I’d ask my parents, who think he’s getting into Harvard and Yale.

But because of this forum, I know my kid is a dime of dozen (well, one of 100,000), and will do great at UMD or Michigan State or wherever he ends up.

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Same here. My DH thought our 4.2 1440 DD could get in anywhere. Being on here has helped me show him he's being unrealistic. It's also brings us down to earth when kids with higher stats have gotten rejected from some of the same places DD has.

[b]I did quit the forum for a while in the Fall. I posted something that led to 18 pages of vitriol, 95% of which was people misreading what I wrote or making wrong assumptions, which seems to be the MO of most DCUM posters.[/b] [/quote]

This is the part that drives me off from time to time. People who either lack reading comprehension or purposefully misconstrue what people say and/or make assumptions about things that weren't posted at all so they can accuse the poster of some crime or place blame where none is warranted.  I do think a lot of it has to do with wanting to pretend that the process isn't really random and they really do have control and their kid will "win" because they are smarter than the poster and will avoid the *obvious* pitfalls that the OP fell into.

I often think of the thread on here years ago about a mother who was hit by a truck while putting her child into her minivan in the car pool line, and there were pages and pages of posts alternately blaming the mother for her carelessness and the driver for his negligence (I don't know how the whole thing came out, but, at the time, there was no evidence that the driver was speeding, etc).  Very very few posters on here seemed willing to even consider that the incident may have just been a terrible, random accident. The fact that random bad things happen to good, smart people is too scary to countenance.   [/quote]

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