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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Private adoption is her only option in this area.  SG will only go to 51 with donor eggs.  I don't know about the other clinics in the area, but I suspect that 54 is too old for all of them.  I'm not sure she would even be able to find a clinic in the US to do DE IVF for her at that age.  I think the Society for Repro Medicine might even have ethical standards that prohibit attempting to do do this in the US.  She might be able to go to India where they don't seem to have any qualms about implanting DE in post menopausal women.  There was an article in the Post a year or two back about how 70 year olds in India were having babies with DE.  (If anyone wants to look it up I know it was Aug.13, but I'm not sure of the year)[/quote]

For donor eggs in this area she should look at Genetics and IVF (GIVF), which may still go up to 55 for DE.  Outside this area, she should check Cooper (in New Jersey) and other IVF clinics using the SART/CDC statistics.  If she is serious, she needs to move quickly.  For insight on DE, she should get on message boards on Network54.com regarding Looking to be a Mom via Egg Donation (the yellow board) and Parenting over 50.  For you as a friend, hopefully you can see your way to being supportive of whatever choice she makes.  Any and all of them are stressful.  And if she goes forward with a baby, she will be out of sync, if you will, with her peers and longtime friends and you can be a great supporter of her in that regard.    [/quote]

Here's what I don't understand. Yes, this is a supportive community and a supportive board, but why do people feel like they have to give "helpful" information when someone has such as stupid idea? I'm being totally serious. This woman needs to grow up -- wake up -- and realize that her ship has sailed, as far as having a baby goes. 54 is not old in the big scheme of things and there are a lot of things one can accomplish then, but having a baby -- creativing a new baby -- at that point in life, with all of the money, medical issues, not to mention ethical issues involved -- is crazy.

And by the way, where is OP on this?[/quote]

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