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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here -

He has always been this way. Let me add he is a very loving boy which is part of why I feel so guilty. He doesn't hit or kick thankfully.

He has always been active and high energy. My husband was diagnosed with ADHD at a young age and took Ritalin. He is ... 34 months old so almost 3.

He has never slept through the night and still wakes 1-2x/night. He will not respond to my husband at night and cry/scream for me. We are encouraging him to try the potty and having him sit before and after meals and before and after sleeping. We read him books while he sits on the potty and give rewards and praise if he goes (he has 2x so far), but now the potty has become a spot he likes to sit and be read to.

The tantrums I just kind of zone out. I have to try really hard to not scream and reciprocate. I try to speak to him in a low, calm voice and give warning indicators that we will be leaving soon. He won't get up and and walk or take my hand when it's time to go, so at the end of the 5 minute indicator I have to pick him up and he begins thrashing.
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Dear OP,

He sounds exactly like mine who is turning 5 next month.

As soon as your son turns 3, get the 5 pound weighted blanket from Amazon (the one with minky fabric on one side). The reviews will say "it's a miracle" and you will be skeptical. GET THE BLANKET. We went from every 45 minute wake-ups to once a night around 4 or 5 am. I am sending you prayers that it works for you as well as it did for me. Sleep for Mom is important at helping you be your best.

Next - Can you consider OT? We have had our son in two or three times a week since age 2. It has helped a ton with emotional regulation and giving an outlet to the need for big motor activities. It was like 1:1 private circus class in the beginning because he was so much in need. Then - if that starts to help, get a big swing at home that you can swing him in high and fast on days when there is no OT.

We let my son use a tablet on the potty. Voila - pooping on the potty everyday.

At 4 years and 8 months, my son started a super low dose of Ritalin. It has helped tremendously. We also supplement with fish oil gummies and magnesium gummies.

I could share lots more strategies, but I just want you to know you're not alone. It's not you, it's him.  :D  
I am certain you are doing a great job just by virtue of the fact that you are working on not yelling. I wish I had another. So maybe give the weighted blanket a try later this Spring and get back to sleep - and back to bed IYKWIM.

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