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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A lot of people really romanticize grandparent-child relationships, and assume that every grandparent is an outstanding caregiver for children.  It's similar to the assumption that having family local = helpful family with endless time and patience to serve as a second (or third) set of parents.

I do think an old retired couple can provide safe care for their grandchildren, and it's great for kids to see that childcare can vary.  They don't need to be wildly entertained every single weekend.  Having a slower pace now and then is great, and kids thrive knowing that different people love and care for them.[/quote]

People who either had grandparents or now have parents who are:

[b]1) young and active enough to reasonably keep up,
2) kind and patient enough to deal with young kids,
3) willing and enthusiastic about providing this care, AND
4) located close enough for this to be a regular or dependable form of care[/b]

Tend to assume this is just what all grandparents are like. This is a small minority of grandparents. Often through no fault of their own! My MIL is simply too old and too far away to be this kind of grandparent, tho I know for a fact she would like to be. But the situation is what it is. Similarly, my parents, though younger, lack the disposition or interest.

My child is better off with a paid caregiver than her grandparents, because her grandparents are not appropriate caregivers for a young child. It’s nothing to lose sleep over— many if not most families are in the same spot.[/quote]

I have those 4 and I am usually surprised when grandparents are not like this bc culturally this is how grandparents are in my culture.[/quote]

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