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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First, I’m truly sorry for your loss.

Any person who goes beyond ‘I’m so sorry to hear that, please let me know if I can help with xxx’ after you simply reply ‘my sibling passed away in January’ is beyond rude.

A simple, direct ‘Larla passed away in January’ is ALL you need to say. If they are rude and follow up with more questions, simply say ‘I really don’t want to talk about it.’  That’s it. If they push further, you would not be rude to simply walk away[/quote]

[b]It really is not rude to ask how someone died. [/b]If someone asks you how your sibling is doing, it's because either they too know the sibling, or you talk about your sibling frequently. Seriously, do you just randomly ask your coworkers or acquaintances how their siblings are doing? No. Unless you know the sibling personally, or the person talks about the sibling A LOT.

And, it would be understandable if you replied "I'm sorry, I don't want to discuss it," in response. Pushing beyond that is rude.

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Pro tip: if someone wants you to know how a sibling/spouse/relative died they would just tell you. As in, Larla died of cancer/a heart attack/stroke.

I have never in my life directly asked how someone died! Ye gods.[/quote]

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