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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not a yeller, but have yelled at my kid twice in her life (she's 9 now). Both times involved her running into the road. I don't think parents that yell are *bad* per se, but it does lose its impact if you yell a lot. The examples the OP gave are mixed for me. Opening the door on the GW parkway does merit yelling. It's a safety issue that has to be addressed immediately. A toddler dumping sand on someone else doesn't merit yelling IMO. It does need correcting, but not via yelling. [/quote]

Except in the door example, how is that a kid's fault? We expect a three year old to just inherently know not to open a car door while we're driving, but have they ever been explicitly told that before? The child lock wasn't working, that's not the kid's fault. Their brains aren't capable of rationality. Yelling at them for stuff they don't understand isn't just cruel it's pointless. [/quote]

How does fault come into it? If you rarely yell and then when you REALLY need your kid to listen ASAP because of a safety issue, yelling will get their attention. Something like, SHUT THE DOOR, or, GET BACK, or, STOP. You can and should have a calm conversation later and explain why you yelled, but in this instance yelling is a matter of safety. - Mom who has yelled at her kid twice in their life[/quote]

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