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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah, I yell at my kids, they deserve it. Whether it's because they are being jerks, or taking part in dangerous activities, I've been unsuccessful in figuring out any other way to get it to stop.

It's possible I'm just a shitty parent, but I choose to believe that parents that for real [b]don't yell at their kids don't spend much time with their kids[/b]. [/quote]
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I can honestly say I have never yelled at my kid even once. But here’s the catch… I only have one. And there’s another parent, so I can walk away whenever I need to. I think if I had more than one, or if I were the only parent, I’d be yelling for sure.

I don’t think you’re a shitty parent, I think parenting multiple kids is just really really hard.[/quote]

I'm a SAHM to two toddlers ie I spend a lot of time with my kids. I have never yelled. But I have a lot of other bad traits as a parent. I just take issue with the idea that all parents yell. [/quote]

So if one of your toddlers opened the car door while driving you would do what? Just calmly say “Larlo, we don’t open car doors while mommy is driving.”?[/quote]

My kids are not able to open car doors while I'm driving. I don't even understand how that happens. The most dangerous situation I can remember is my 18 month old climbed onto the counter and got a knife. How would yelling in this situation have helped? So my kid has a knife and then panics because his mom is screaming at him? If you were doing something really scary and dangerous and your spouse yelled at you would that have helped you?

Honestly when I'm really mad I get really quiet. Then my kids know mom is REALLY mad. [/quote]

You don't understand how a kid could open a car door while the car is moving (when the PP said the child locks were apparently not working) but your kid had enough access to stand on a counter and get a knife?  You might want to dial back the sanctimony a little there.

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There's this trend on DCUM and elsewhere to label anyone a sanctimommy for not admitting they engage in horrible behavior. As I said numerous times, I have a lot to work on as a parent. I'm not blaming the other poster for her car doors, I'm saying I truly don't understand how that happens because my kids can't reach the door handles in either of our cars. I have an equivalent example- this was something really dangerous that happened on my watch, this is how I handled it. If you feel so attacked by someone saying they don't ~yell at their kids~ that you have to call them names, maybe take a step back and think about why this is so triggering for you. [/quote]

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