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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Read comprehension people.  The friend picked up her meal once because OP forgot her wallet.  Said friend then requested payment for it even though OP has spent a great deal of money hosting her friend and family at her home and also treating her entire family to dinner out. [/quote]

Comprehension isn't the issue.  OP never, ever mentioned going to a restaurant in her original post.  The original post was strictly about inviting her friend to her home for dinner 30 or 40 times.  The one restaurant incident where they split the tab was buried later in subsequent posts.  But ok, I saw it now.

Again OP, you are the weirdo here.  It's incredibly tacky to invite a family over to dinner at your home and expect them to pay you cash to eat.  WTF.  I don't care how or who prepared the food.  For restaurant dining, it's not out of the ordinary to PayPal or Venmo a friend to cover your half.  Could she have just covered the whole tab?  Yes.  She probably should have.  But what you are wanting - payment for coming over as dinner guests - is way tackier.[/quote]

Op here. I would never ask anyone to pay to eat at my house. Of course not. I have hosted them at our house 30-40x and never asked them to pay. They are my guests. Why would I ask them to pay me.

When we went out pre Covid and during Covid a few times, we would split the bill. Totally fine.

One time she paid for me she made me Venmo her. It made me think how they never invite us or treat us ever.[/quote]

Ok.  You should have mentioned this 1 incident in your original post, if that's what your gripe is all about.  [/quote]

It's possible she just is used to Venmo and splitting costs when dining out, which is why she asked you for the Venmo.

I have a friend who hosts people all of the time because it's more convenient for her and she will never accept invitations to visit others because it is hassle for her.  Your friend may be clueless as to social graces and the fact that you are expecting reciprocation.  Some people are unsocial and unaware of the expectation to return the favor for hosting. It's also possible that she doesn't like hosting and finds it stressful.

Frankly, it sounds like you are expecting something in return for your hosting them so frequently and are resentful that they are not living up to this unstated expectation. There is no reason to continue hanging out with them if you are feeling resentful. I know that most people will find this suggestion rude, but since it sounds like you are close, you could suggest visiting her place and see how she reacts. Something like "Susan, I don't believe that I've seen that new big screen that you mentioned. Why don't we do pizza night with the kids at your place on Friday for a change of pace?" [/quote]

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