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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I feel sorry for them b/c their parents are putting a lot of pressure on them to succeed academically from a very young age. I wasn't in a GT program but started first grade as a 3 yr old and went to college at 15. Our parents were over involved tiger parents so I know where my siblings get it from. You would think they learned their lessons from their own childhood. So yeah, I'm very sad for the kids. [/quote]

I do not feel sorry for these parents because of your perception their high academically performing kids are under a lot of pressure.

I feel sorry for the parents who failed to direct and mentor their kids early in life (primary school) and find themselves and kids behind as they hustle to get their kids back on academic track and into colleges -- to ultimately find these kids after university still getting up at midday on their basement couches.  These are the kids, and parents, that are feeling the real pressure!

I'll take the high academically performing kid to the video watching and facebooking healthy regular kid that finds it difficult to get up by noon any day of the week.
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See, you just don't get it.  The kids who aren't getting off their couches after college are not stuck in that rut because their parents didn't "mentor them" or put them in academic after school programs.  This kind of failure to launch is emotional, NOT academic or intellectual.  It affects kids who have no inner-directed reason to achieve, or are depressed, or feel like a failure if they can't be the absolute best at every possible thing.  And the kinds of parents most likely to produce such an adult are the tiger parents.

Yeah, there are children of tiger moms who achieve everything their parents want them to (notice, their parents want them to.  This breed of parenting is a form of narcissism.) and others who, once they can, do everything possible to thumb their noses at their parents  Cause ultimately its the kids who are in control and the best way to prove that is to try to exert complete control over your children.

My DC is both a facebooking happy regular kid and a "high academically performing kid."  Its only in the simplistic binary world of narcissism are the two mutually exclusive, are parents who aren't as controlling as them deemed destined to be failures.[/quote]

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