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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does he have a washer dryer? Is she a single mom who works a ton? I really can’t take people seriously who say “check your privilege”.[/quote]

OP here,

My sister-in-law and her husband live in a rental townhouse. It does come with the washer and dryer but they don't wash their clothes there. They use a public laundromat in the neighborhood. The few times that I was invited to their house, the house was average clean and no visible dirt at all. They do have three cats and a dog.
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why don't they use the in unit ones?  Dogs/cats definitely can make the sheets dirty if they are allowed all over the bed.  I had two dogs myself at one point.

Sounds like maybe your daughter also is a bit picky about cleanliness (and maybe other things?).  Not that I blame her that much.  I am quite picky about cleanliness, too (which my kids hate LOL) but not to the extreme.[/quote]

OP here,

I have no idea why they don't use the washer and dryer there. Maybe it's the same money or something else all together. My daughter is very picky, and she does have sensitive skin and allergy just like myself. Reason why we use unsensitive so soap.. also, unscented detergent for bedding and etc. I have explained to my daughter before everyone's household and habits are different and please don't judge.[/quote]

Your daughter obviously isn't judging, she's quietly bringing her own sheets and towels and never even mentioned any of it to you and is still spending the night. She found a solution, why are you trying to blow it up?[/quote]

OP here,

My husband is the one that's super upset and blew up on his sister. I just want to find a solution for everyone, if they are having some type of issue, the sister or her husband can approach us or just my husband if she feels uncomfortable with me. [/quote]

That's not what you said in the OP at all, you said he talked to her not that he's super upset and blew up, remember: [b]"My husband had the conversation with the sister and she basically just told him to mind his own business and check our daughter privilege?"[/b] He talked to her because you told him to. Your meddling is disingenuous and you're trying real hard to make this a thing because you don't like her.  Butt out.[/quote]

OP here,

My sister-in-law and I have nothing in common except my husband and daughter period. I am truly just tired of her using privilege in every situation that she doesn't agree with, that pertain to my family. I try my best not to get in the way my husband and his sister relationship. Except with this incident, [b]I did ask my husband to talk to his sister and find out what's going on? [/b]It was definitely an innocent question but sister-in-law kind of blew up at him and I understand somehow but she doesn't have the right to accuse everyone being mean to her or saying that our daughter is privileged because she does not want to sleep on a dirty bedding.[/quote]

What sort of answer did you expect? Telling someone their bedding stinks is a conversation that even Emily Post would have difficulty conducting with tact, let alone your average male. No good could ever have come from this discussion. I kinda think you did it to get a dig in at your SIL. [/quote]

Yeah it’s pretty rude to ask someone why the bedding they have at their home isn’t up to your daughters standards. He should absolutely not have said anything. It’s one thing for her to bring sheets or a sleeping bag citing sensitive skin issues (they would still likely see this as high maintenance but not rude) but quite another to directly ask why her sheets aren’t good enough. This is so obviously snobby and inappropriate. If she thinks the place is gross she shouldn’t stay over but what you and DH said is not ok. [/quote]

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