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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a bit of a different perspective.  I'm older 53 and my husband will turn 56 in a few weeks.  You wouldn't know that my husband is 56 except that his beard is all gray, his hair is still the same dirty blond it has always been and he doesn't really have the middle age spread. (He isn't ripped either, just a normal body with a little extra around the middle)  Not to get too graphic but he still gets morning wood every day and wants sex every night.  (me, OTOH, has had her libido fall off a cliff, a sad story for another time) My husband works out 4-5 days a week and takes care of himself.  It isn't a guarantee but it is helpful. No we don't have the age difference you are talking about so I understand it is a concern, but I don't think it should be the be all, end all.

Look at how this guy lives his life.  Is he active?  What are his hobbies?  For example, my husband skis, runs, bikes.  We walk over driving because we live in the city.

My mother died at 34 from cancer.  I have two younger step sisters, one is waiting for a lung transplant. (issues started out of the blue 2 years ago) and the other's husband was just diagnosed with a rare cancer.

Life is a crap shoot.  If you like this guy, see where it goes. [/quote]
My DH is 57; I'm 52.  Most people are shocked to find out that he is in his late 50s because he seems much younger.  He skis, too, and works out for an hour almost every day.  But, 56 is very different from 66 and 76.

Sure, OP can date the guy now, but if OP is looking for something long term, she needs to think about what it would be like when she's 50 and he is 66, and 60 and 76.

The guy would be retirement age for more than a decade before OP is even there.  Already, our age gap is becoming noticeable as DH hits closer to 59.5 and wants to retire ealry.  But, since I'm only a few years younger, we will have to deal with the difference in life stage for a few years, whereas OP would have 10+ yrs to deal with it.

Of course, everyone is different, and YMMV.  My parents are in their 80s, and my dad is 7 years older than my mom, yet it's my mom's health that is failing before my dad's. I'm convinced my dad will outlive all of us, but he is not the norm.  Statistically, men die earlier than women.

If OP is just looking for *right now* and not a LTR, then sure, go for it.[/quote]

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