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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  To clarify, I’m not divorced and have never been married.  I wouldn’t describe myself as commitment-phobic; I just had some financial goals that I wanted to meet before getting bogged down in a relationship.  Now that I have done that, I am definitely open to committed, long-term relationships, so I’m not leading anyone on.  The couple of casual relationships I’ve had have been fun too.

While I’m not opposed to a long-term relationship, I think it’s very unlikely that I would want to cohabitate and almost certain that I would not want to marry.  I just value my space and my privacy too much.

Lastly, I’m not sure why everyone is making it seem like cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, etc. are no big deal.  Isn’t this the same DCUM where everyone is stressed out and complaining about housework and all the “mental loads?“ (Granted, I don’t have kids but the other tasks are not insignificant.)  Other than some work issues, I have zero stress in my life, and I love it that way.[/quote]

I hear you OP. These same DCUMers will be posting weekly about 'unfair' household balances and yes -- the mental load. Ready to scream at their spouses over unclean bathrooms and who is getting up for the 4AM feeding and the other partner not prioritizing paying for a cleaner. These are couples a year into marriage and 10 years into marriage it doesn't matter. Its always compromise and someone is often unhappy.

You like your life the way it is - nothing wrong with that and adding some companionship. Maybe you'll meet someone who makes the extra effort worth it but from these boards - that's a long(er) shot.[/quote]

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