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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just curious if you women would perceive this as a negative in the dating market, i.e. that’s too small a place for a 40-year-old or it may indicate I’m not serious about marriage.  (Truthfully, I’m not interested in getting married but I don’t *lead* with that so women don’t think I am only interested in sex.)[/quote]
OP, this is the only part of your explanation I really don't get. I wouldn't care that you had a 1 BR condo, nor that you spend a lot of time with your parents just as a fact on its own. There's nothing automatically weird or off about either of those circumstances. But I do find it weird you yourself say your condo may "indicate you're not serious about marriage" as a negative when...you actually [i]aren't [/i]interested in marriage. That seems to imply you want to deliberately lead women on. If true, knock it off. But also, maybe I'm misreading and what you mean is you're open to honest relationships but worry you'll scare women off before they get to know if you if blurt out you don't want to get married on a first date - in which case, fair enough, just don't let it go too far if you think there's any misunderstanding developing. And please trust me, there will be TONS of women in their 40s+ who are interested in long-term relationships without wanting marriage, and who are probably interested in keeping their own places too.

In fact I'd bet more women would be interested in that setup than otherwise, especially with a guy who in your own words isn't interested in cooking, etc. because it's "too much work." That's great, you can just hang out and have fun together and then go to your own places and take care of yourselves! Win-win - as long as you're straight about it. I mean, heck, I consider myself happily married but if God forbid something happened to DH no way would I want to get married again. Too much work and I don't want some man constantly all up in my business and in my space needing care and feeding. I'd way rather just have a companion to go out with and travel and do fun stuff and have great sex and then go back to my nice peaceful home and life on my own. [/quote]

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