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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi OP.  I’m so sorry you are having to make this decision.  It’s never easy.  I work for hospice.  Start with her doctor.  Tell the doctor that you believe her pain and anxiety are not well-controlled, and ask about Hospice care. A doctor needs to affirm that the illness (dementia), assuming it follows a typical course,  is likely to result in death within six months.  That doesn’t mean the patient will die in six months.  Doctors recert as long as the patient does not improve. For a 90 year old, it shouldn’t be difficult to get.

Know this - Hospice absolutely will not hasten death.  They also won’t prolong it.  It’s all about palliative care - comfort care.  But never about speeding up the natural dying process.  We keep patients calm and comfortable and simply allow death to occur naturally. Having said that, hospice won’t force feedings or fluids.  No feeding tubes or IVs (with the rare exception).  No treatments for the Illness.  We just manage symptoms.  Some of my patients have been in our inpatient facility for over two years.  I have home hospice patients that I’ve been seeing for over a year.  When death is near, a patient’s body begins to shut down.  They are no longer hungry so they stop eating.  They are no longer thirsty so they stop drinking.  This is usually really hard on families because they assume their loved one is starving.  In reality, they are dying and the body has no need for food anymore.

State laws and insurance vary.  A hospice social worker in your state can talk you through that.  I’m an interfaith hospice chaplain and am happy to answer any questions.  I know this is hard.  [/quote]

“Know this - Hospice absolutely will not hasten death.”

Maybe yours won’t. There are plenty that will.

Example:  a patient told as a condition of hospice to stop antibiotics because those are “care,” ignoring that the symptoms of infection are miserable and lead to unnecessary suffering, such that the same antibiotics actually are palliative. But that’s OK. Morphine and a quick departure solve everything.

It is a scandal what the well-intentioned hospice movement has become in many instances. [/quote]

It is hard to draw the line sometimes. At what point is a treatment extending natural life or lack of treatment allowing natural death.  There are people who believe that stopping anything will prematurely kill someone and other feel that it is allowing a natural death.  Going into hospice usually means the person up giving up those treatments that may extend their life.  This is not killing them.  [/quote]

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