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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 11yo told me she was pansexual and I asked her what that meant to her, and then asked her if she had any feeling of attraction to anyone. She responded “ew, no”, then paused for a beat and said, “I guess I’m nothing sexual”, to which I responded “you’re 11 and that is fine. No need to rush to label yourself”. She then decided that her current sexual orientation is “questioning” which sounds great for a preteen/teen kid who is still figuring it all out. By 15 I expect she may have some answers, but at 11 it’s still really all beyond her. If at 15 she told me she was bi I would say great, thank you for sharing that with me. I hope you find wonderful people to love and who love you. [/quote]

This is really interesting. I started to write this scenario earlier today because I went through it when my daughter was 11 (she's 15 now.) She claimed she was pansexual just as she started to meet non-binary people, attended her first PRIDE march and wanted to buy everything rainbow (the beginning of middle school.) She put up a pan flag in her room and I said to her that if she is truly pansexual then we need to have a different conversation to make sure she was protecting herself sexually. She had a similar reaction and was like "wait... no I'm not sexual." Now at 15 she has moved out of her everything rainbow/PRIDE stage and doesn't label herself as anything (although her brother likes to label her.)[/quote]

I don’t get this. If she was heterosexual, wouldn’t you still have needed to have a safe sex convo? It is important to have safe sex convos with our kids no matter their sexual preferences and to start these convos before they are sexually active. It sounds to me like she just didn’t want to have a sex talk with you, which was being tied to her self-identification as pansexual, so of course she’s going to step back from identifying in that case.[/quote]

Of course! If she has told me she were heterosexual, my response would have been the same. Don't worry, it's all good on this end - we've been talking about sex for years.[/quote]

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