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[quote=Anonymous]Under promise, over deliver. That should be your goal. Be clear NOW that while you are thrilled for them, realistically speaking flying across the country every year will likely be cost prohibitive. You have college to save for and other travel goals for your children (whatever those are...overseas, Grand Canyon, Niagra, etc.). Your children will be off to college before you know it and you only have so much time to gift them with experiences to learn that the world is a big place.

I suspect your ILs will also soon learn that they don't really want to fly east as much as they claim. So stick to your "hotel" plan and just wait to see how often they really do come. My guess is, not much. And when they do, you might find that they don't prioritize you guys as much as you assume (they might have friendships from their old life back east to maintain). So don't over-react about their plans to visit yet.

But I do think you should make it very clear that financially you're family is NOT able to travel to the WC annually...and don't even entertain the idea of multiple times a year. Nope. They are making this decision. They can own it.  [/quote]

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