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[quote=Anonymous]I think sometimes you have to just consciously work at it, which seems to make it less sexy, but the results aren’t less sexy at all. 
As you seem to be able to get it going, start with that. Buy a new toy, do a 30 day sex challenge, or whatever will help jumpstart getting sex *as a routine* back. We all know that in most cases, sex begets more sex, so use that. Then, start to inject things into *your* day to help you simmer, and do something every day or several times a day to help that along. Listen to erotica podcasts (some are only 10 or so minutes long), or take a break for a minute or two and just skim erotic pictures online (it doesn’t have to be full on porn). Take nude selfies, even if you aren’t comfortable sending them. When you say goodby to your spouse, hold on for a minute longer and take them in, even do something small like brush your mouth against their ear or neck. Insert more innuendo into your conversations.

More self care and self love. Get yourself off more in between sessions with your partner. Act as if you are the sexiest thing on the planet, because that’s contagious.

Also, broaden your perspective of what sex is. Go a few weeks where PIV is NOT the goal, nor is either person both getting off each and every time. “Make out” over clothes, watch each other stimulate themselves, make a night just about the other person, watch an erotic movie together with the goal of NOT having sex however you normally would and see what transpires.

You basically have to infuse a new routine, not just a novelty. [/quote]

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