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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We’ve tried everything, OP.  New, sexy lingerie, dates, dancing, losing weight, sleeping in separate rooms, sleeping in the same room, you name it.  All bandaids that work for a little bit.  We have settled into a nice, companionate love.  Sex is like a decent sandwich at this point.  It is what it is.

-married 14 years[/quote]

Ouch. Did you have good chemistry to start?[/quote]

NP here, same situation. Sex still feels good but can be awkward.

And yes, great chemistry at the start. Not sure what happened along the way but I miss that part of the relationship[/quote]

This is why open relationships should be destigmatized.  The deterioration of your romantic relationship is natural and nobody’s fault. And nobody should be shamed for wanting a little bit of sexual variety before they die.  [/quote]

I am skeptical about this idea.  If people want to be in an open relationship, that is really their business.  As long as both adults are consenting, then great. But reading this, it seems more like "destigmatizing" is actually an assault on monogamy.  And I don't mean this in some religious or spiritual sense, like those who oppose LGBTQ relationships.  I mean it in the sense that it seems like you are saying that a married person ought to be expected to acquiesce to an open relationship if their partner wants it.  That doesn't really feel like consent to me.  Much like the Savage Love mantra of GGG can be misinterpreted and misused or consent can be more complicated than a simple yes or no, it seems to be that destigmatizing often means acceptance.  And though I think it's fine to say that you shouldn't intervene in other's affairs, it is a much harder thing to say that you must or should accept such a change in your own life and relationship.     [/quote]

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