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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you unhappy? Unfulfilled? I really don’t get the draw to want to have relationship with every person you are related to.  It’s ok to not know a half sibling, or care.
 
Focus on your own family.  [/quote]
I think most people think a sibling  is family.   Again,  louder for those in the back- a SIBLING.  As in-  "another child your parent (s) had."  Sibling. 50% of your DNA or 25% if it is a half sibling.

Not a second cousin  once removed  or some aunt from the "old country." A sibling. [/quote]

Exactly.  A sibling.  And as a person write above, blood isn’t everything, but it’s something.  I have a brother that I don’t much get along with,  but now that I have met my new sister through DNA, it’s a whole new meaningful branch of the family.  I have a niece and a nephew.  My son has cousins.  My niece looks JUST like my mom.  Uncannily, like she skipped a generation.  All of my guest cousins on my mom’s side that we are close to have embraced her, too.  Having her family at our family events and in our circle has been really meaningful to all of us.

It’s not just about the birth mother.  All of these kingship connections matter.  Or *can* matter, depending on the person.  They matter to me enormously, and I’m really glad my sister feels the same.

BTW, I had lunch today with my sister’s adoptive mom.  She has a photo of my son on her fridge.  Her son has also found his genetic sister and considers her family, too…like of like an in-law relationship.  So I as her daughter’s sister and her son’s other sister are all now extended family.  It’s lovely how she has embraced her family growing this way, and she’s so happy for her daughter.  She’s very sad that she never met my mom.  She told me she prayed for her and sent her love every night.  That would have meant so much to my mom.

OP, yes, there are risks.  But I wish you and your sibling a reward as rich as the one I’ve been lucky to have![/quote]

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