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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know a SAHM like your wife.(SAHM seems like a misnomer though, given that her kids are pretty  much grown at this point.) She keeps trying to delay her husband's retirement, because she does not want him around.

It honestly disgusts me to hear her talk. It is SO clear that she sees him as a meal ticket. I cannot relate to such a relationship, and my heart goes out to men who realize this is all they are to their wives.

Women who miss having the house to yourself: get over it. Your partner has HAD to work for decades so you had a house to hang out in. He paid for the nice furnishings and the groceries you are shopping for.  How dare you resent him spending time there like you have for most of your adult life.

Men, if you see this in your future, get out now. Don't be a fool.[/quote]

I hear you and agree 100% (and I'm a woman). I can imagine the outrage if the gender roles were reversed and it was a fifty or sixty something SAHF with young adult kids complaining about his wife retiring. [/quote]

The gender roles are usually reversed.  Women complain that their husbands don’t want to spend time with them all of the time.

Look, the OP was perfectly fine not to spend time with his wife during the day for 25 years.  He didn’t call her, invite her out to lunch when he had an hour break, come home early to spend time with her, etc.  She might have wanted those things early in the marriage, but she didn’t get them.  (She got used to not hearing from him for 12 hours a day.). She probably told herself that it was fine, and she didn’t want those things anyway.  Now, after telling herself that lie for a decade or more, it became the truth.

It would take a truly remarkable and understanding person to go on actively wanting to be with someone who more or less ignored them twelve hours a day for twenty-five years.  
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