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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks 123 Magic poster.  I did skim through most of the book but agree with PP that my 18 month old will not understand the counting yet. Maybe we will try in a year when he gets more verbal.

As to what I do now, I try the respectful parenting thing of acknowledging his request while holding my boundary. Functionally that looks like me shoveling food in for 3 mins while he cries and tugs at my arm and clothes.  I would not call this a success.  Dad tries to distract hum but not even screen time works and he only wants me.

DH also has no free time so it's not just me.  The only "me time" we feel like we get is after our son goes to daycare and we are working.  [b]Other babies and toddlers we interact with seem way more chill.  [/b]I think we are just slowly accepting that this is a death march til age 3 or 4 or whatever.  It's so hard that neither of us have any bandwidth to even consider a second so we are most likely one and done.

Just wish I could enjoy this stage of parenting more. 
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I always felt this way too! I remember getting together with friends who also had 1 year olds and my kid would be climbing all over me, digging through my purse, attempting to run into traffic or scale walls, while their child was sitting happily on a blanket two feet away playing with a single toddler toy for 45 minutes. I was like "How?????"

But it evens out in the end. My super active and demanding 18mo became a 3 and 4 year old who was great at independent play and went to sleep on her own. And some of my friends with the chill toddlers had suddenly very clingy preschoolers who didn't sleep. And suddenly they were coming to me for advice on how I "made" my kid so independent. But I think really what happens is that all kids go through these phases of dependence and independence and if you just stick with them through it, you get out the other side.[/quote]

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