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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh! What is with calling the stepmom a bonus mom? Ridiculous. You can't stand your own mother then why go around calling someone else a bonus mom when she has not birthed you?[/quote]

Yeah, I’m a stepmom and I would feel so awful for my SD’s mom is she called me “bonus mom”.  Especially if my DH had cheated on her mom and broken her heart.  I can’t think of anything worse than my husband betraying my trust and live and then all of a sudden my child embracing a “bonus mom” who she enjoys more than my heartbroken self.

I think it’s truly cruel to call someone a “bonus mom” when your actual mom is still around and is heartbroken about the fracturing of your family.  By making things more positive toward your stepmom, you are making it worse at the expense of your mom.[/quote]

OP here, my cheated but it wasn’t with my stepmom (is that better?). They met a few years after my parent’s divorce. She was there for me at a time when my mom couldn’t be emotionally. So I don’t call her my bonus mom to hurt my mom, I call her that because she is like a second mom. Her words to me were, “the only steps in this house are the ones you walk on.” I don’t understand why you’re so bothered by the term. [/quote]

She is probably a bitter cheated on woman.  OP it is lovely you consider tour stepmom a bonus mom.  [/quote]

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