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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why must one make it a competition? Every child boy or girl comes with their own unique personality and traits. Any child can present challenges regardless of gender.  I am appalled at some women claiming how girls are so complex and emotional and they really wanted boys.  Why peg one entire gender against the other because of your own personal experience?  It’s sickening and anyone who does that probably needs a good amount of therapy. [/quote]

You are projecting. I wanted boys because I had a difficult relationship with MY mom. Of course it is my personal experience, this is all I have. Parenting is not a crash course that one learns from the hallmark channel and self-help books. I also strongly believe that my mom was not the only mom who wanted a mini-her with similar, but better decision making skills. Go to the Teen forum and read about the mom who disagrees with her daughter's clothing because she used to dress modestly at her age or the one who is having a crisis because her teen is having sex at 16 and didn't wait until 24, like the mom. I see it over and over again.   [/quote]

And I have heard tons of stories where parents constantly complain about their sons play video games all day and completely ignore their parents or they don’t focus in school or they get involved with drugs. But that didn’t make me not wish for a boy because my own son is unique and I have the ability to from a great relationship with him as I do with my daughter.  Just because you had a difficult relationship with your mom doesn’t mean it would have played out like that if you had a daughter. If anything maybe it would have given you an incentive to be more emotionally attuned to her needs. A healthy mother daughter relationship is beautiful and is very common. In fact daughters often grow up much much closer to their parents than sons. The overwhelming majority of caregivers for elderly parents are daughters. Anyhow, my point is each child is unique and I find it incredibly odd when people wish to NOT have a specific gender. [/quote]

I don't know,  there is a lot of stereotyping in your post. Maybe not, maybe I'm thankful that I didn't have to work as hard at my relationship with my sons. Maybe I would have been a terrible girl mom and be like my mom. I know, head to the midlife forum and hear about overwhelmed daughters stuck with taking care of their elderly parents and small children.  Most of them have no say because it is expected of them. No, I didn't wish for girls so I can have a family member change my diapers,  thank you. [/quote]

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