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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Chinese and Middle Eastern people really want boys,  even if they're feminists.

I have an Egyptian friend who did ivf with pgd for a boy[/quote]

My American WASP husband also wished for a boy. I don't think it's rational. I absolutely wanted boys - I have 3 brothers and 8 male cousins and I'm the only girl in the family, so this is all I knew.  Boys and men are very simple, very easy to live with; they have very simple needs. I love my nieces to death but I'm not equipped to deal with the richness of emotions,  especially as teenagers.  I also had a fraught relationship with my mom growing up, because she wanted to re-live her childhood through me and thought that having a daughter would be like a second chance to her life. 
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DP. I think this is a very damaging attitude. I have two sons and a daughter, and the boys are just as emotionally complex as my friends and I were at their ages (DD is a baby). The idea of boys as unemotional is outdated and inaccurate.[/quote]

PP here, I didn't say they are unemotional, I said simple. Mine are older (one in college, one in grad school) and I stand by my statement. As your DD gets older, you will have to navigate the complexity of the social relationships between girls, and those start in elementary school. Who plays in what group, who gets excluded, who gets invited to what parties etc. I love my boys to death, they are smart and sensitive, but they don't have the same emotional bandwidth, I don't know how to explain it. I honestly don't think men have the same level of emotional intelligence or if they do, it is not readily expressed.

There is a lot of interesting research about the differences.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-brain-and-emotional-intelligence/201104/are-women-more-emotionally-intelligent-men
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mind-the-manager/201603/new-research-women-consistently-outperform-men-in-eq
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/good-thinking/201406/are-males-and-females-equally-emotional
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