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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you spend any time browsing TiKTok you know this is a brewing crisis. Kids are co-opting therapy-speak to blame parents for the normal rough patches of adolescence and young adulthood. Parents they don't agree with are labeled "toxic" or narcissists. Normal trials of growing up are labeled "trauma," and in the interest of "boundaries" kids are cutting family off completely.

I'm all in favor of young people being aware of mental health issues, but it's being twisted into blaming others for anything that doesn't go right in their life. Anyone with a kid between the ages of 10 and 20 should be prepared for it to happen. [/quote]

OP my daughter lives til tok and has told me that the generational trauma etc and things she is facing, that tons of people her age are going through this crisis.  She's sent me tik toks that echo these sentiments.  It becomes an echo chamber.[/quote]

Yup. They are all convinced and convincing each other that they've been horribly damaged by their parents. [/quote]

Who do they think is going to save them?

The reality is they have been coddled and can't handle trauma.[/quote]

They are going to save each other through TikTok, of course. And therapists are making bank. And it's not necessarily coddling that does it. I have literally heard young adults saying their parents made them clean their rooms because "they were narcissists and the appearance of the house was more important than my needs." Any parenting they don't agree with is "toxic" and has left them damaged.  [/quote]

Omg. OP here. That was one of her complaints to me that I made her clean her room once a week.  Not mommy dearest clean.  Just pickup.  I stopped making her clean her room by the time she was 15.  But she told me that was me not respecting her childhood boundaries.  I was shocked.  By the way she's always cleaning her to herself now.  Go figure.[/quote]

I once had a young person tell me that her parents asking where she was going when she left the house (she's 16) was "denying her agency."  [/quote]

WTH????[/quote]

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