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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you spend any time browsing TiKTok you know this is a brewing crisis. Kids are co-opting therapy-speak to blame parents for the normal rough patches of adolescence and young adulthood. Parents they don't agree with are labeled "toxic" or narcissists. Normal trials of growing up are labeled "trauma," and in the interest of "boundaries" kids are cutting family off completely.

I'm all in favor of young people being aware of mental health issues, but it's being twisted into blaming others for anything that doesn't go right in their life. Anyone with a kid between the ages of 10 and 20 should be prepared for it to happen. [/quote]

OP my daughter lives til tok and has told me that the generational trauma etc and things she is facing, that tons of people her age are going through this crisis.  She's sent me tik toks that echo these sentiments.  It becomes an echo chamber.[/quote]

Yup. They are all convinced and convincing each other that they've been horribly damaged by their parents. [/quote]

Who do they think is going to save them?

The reality is they have been coddled and can't handle trauma.[/quote]

They are going to save each other through TikTok, of course. And therapists are making bank. And it's not necessarily coddling that does it. I have literally heard young adults saying their parents made them clean their rooms because "they were narcissists and the appearance of the house was more important than my needs." Any parenting they don't agree with is "toxic" and has left them damaged.  [/quote]

When they say damaged is this basically to give allowance to their own bad behavior? Being damaged didn't used to be terribly popular. No wonder the marriage rate is declining. Everyone is damaged. No one can find an undamaged spouse.[/quote]

They aren't excusing their own bad behavior so much as trying to find out why they feel sad sometimes or scattered or why things don't work out like they expected. Also playing into this dynamic are the portrayals of perfection they see on other social media. [/quote]

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