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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree w/you OP…..this is an extreme action to take on her part.

Her therapist obviously does not have your daughter’s best interests in mind if she is encouraging her to estrange herself from her entire family.
What the…..??! 🙄

The reason for your daughter doing this is completely selfish.
She knows that she can treat you like dirt - but due to your unconditional love for her you will always be there for her when she needs you to be.
I personally feel that she is taking your love for granted.

I am speaking of this from the POV that I didn’t have my own Mother there for me when I was younger & wished I had.
Some people do not realize how blessed they are to have a family’s unconditional love.

Your relationship is mutual &gt; definitely a two-way street.
One person only cannot direct the narrative.

Okay, so your daughter wants a “break” from you.
That is her decision to make.
But when she decides that she is “ready” to engage w/you again, based on her own timeline…..she needs to understand the dynamic in your relationship will likely be adversely affected.
It will be hard for you to trust her on a full scale as she may decide later on she will need another “respite” from your relationship.

It pains me to see someone who is truly blessed w/a loving family decide on their own terms what direction to take.
They know that they can treat their family member unfairly + that in the end their family will be there through thick & thin.
Not everyone can be so lucky.

Oh and since she will be cutting you off -&gt;&gt; you would be a fool to continue handing her money.
Please do not.

So sorry this is happening to you.[/quote]

OP here.  Thanks for these words.  Im sorry what you've been through too.  I also think my daughter needs to be exposed to the outside world a little more.  But I have also spent hours with her talking about her childhood etc.  My husband does not have the patience for 3 hour conversations with her dredging through the trauma if her childhood.  She does say I was too much of a fixer and didn't spend enough time talking to her about her feelings.  She must have a point.  We would talk about feelings growing up but I was more of a problem solver so it became what's our solution to this childhood challenge you're facing.  [/quote]

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