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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does he remember much of anything, ie executive functioning issues, or just bdays or anniversaries?

Tell him to make some new traditions.

Doing nothing is just pathetic and selfish. Esp as a parent or SO. [/quote]

To clarify, he usually does something, after I remind him of the upcoming birthdays. This is a big improvement from how I used to plan for and buy gifts/cards for all his family members’ birthdays. But I drew the line at some point.  Now I would like him to go one step further and remember them on his own without reminders from me. I’m pretty forgetful myself, and it’s hard enough remembering everything else, let alone being responsible for reminding my husband of birthdays.

He has an exceptional memory but only limited to certain things.  The everyday practical things completely escape him.  He does not know our anniversary date either, and I have grown to not really care. I do have to remind him constantly of social things on our calendar and kid related activities and things.[/quote]

Just stopped reminding him of his family stuff and let him deal with the fallout. I’m the woman that doesn’t remember this stuff. If my husband decided to stop reminding me, the world would not end.[/quote]

Yes, but he has parents who care very much about this type of thing. And get very upset if they are forgotten. They also remember and get us something for every one of our special occasions, like our anniversary and birthdays.[/quote]

Curious if BOTH his parents share this sentiment or only one of them does and the other is exactly like your husband (can’t remember! Don’t care! Whatever!). [/quote]

It would be more accurate to say that only one of them really care, but the other fully backs up and supports the one who gets upset.  I do feel somewhat compelled to remind my husband because they go out of the way to buy things for me on my birthday, on Mother’s Day, and on Valentine’s Day.  In addition to our anniversaries and Christmases. [/quote]

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