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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn’t be surprised by an eventual high functioning ASD diagnosis at some point. She sounds a lot like my older child has was diagnosed around age 8. The rudeness/bluntness is a sign, as well as the aloofness, and the social issues of course. My DD on the spectrum had/has all of those characteristics. Solo play, not engaging with others, meltdowns if she is interrupted in what she is doing, indifference to what peers are doing with a focus on self. She also has a high IQ, spoke and read early, is musical, and big into fantasy/imaginative play (my take is they construct characters and stories to fit the way they want interaction, since they can’t get what they want or need from peers). She can be intense, and dismissive.

It’s of course possible your DD is an old soul and just a little odd but it’s wise of you to be attuned you possibilities that something else is at play. She sounds interesting and intellectual and very unique! All good things![/quote]

How is your DD doing now? Is she happy with the friends she has?[/quote]

She is actually in college now (she’s my stepdaughter; I have younger kids which is why I’m on this board) so I can give a way far away view for you! She does have friends, but she’s always had just a few friends. She’s not somebody who has kept friends very easily, unless they are other kids who are kind of quirky. These days a lot of kids are quirky, so she has luckily been able to find her people in whatever situation she has been in. Growing up she definitely continued not to have an interest in sports or most other activities, favoring solo time when she wasn’t in school. We pushed her to be more social, and she chose a couple activities she stuck with through middle school and high school that kept her around peers, but she still favored reading, doing fiction writing and blogging, playing piano, doing lots of online gaming. Very solo, individual activities. She is perfectly happy sitting in her room on her computer all day and night. Academically, school and college have always been easy for her; that makes life a little easier in some regards I suppose. She’s not terribly driven, and in some ways is immature when it comes to responsibilities. She’s just too focused on herself and what she wants to do in the moment. Socially, there’s definitely some awkwardness there. She interrupts when others are talking, has difficulty carrying a conversation not focused on herself (eg, asking questions of others), can still come off as blunt, rude, dismissive, and aloof. If she’s bored by what you’re saying she tunes out (but I guess all young people do this at some point). She’s not bothered by what others say or do or think, and that’s both good and bad in a lot of ways. Generally, she is happy, creative, funny, and smart. All of the core characteristics you want in a child are present. Maybe not everything you would want or expect for a young adult, but we are getting there. Hopefully. It’s been both easy and hard to parent her, and I definitely worry the most about the social aspects of things, so whether or not your daughter winds up with a diagnosis, if you are seeing resistance to socializing at her age, I would just work to continue her exposure so she gets used to being around others, and depending on the situation activity, may actually come to enjoy it. [/quote]

Thanks for responding! I should have clarified I’m not the OP, actually a PP whose child had a preference for adults when she was younger but now is very very social (more than me!) she does struggle with being overly blunt. I was mostly surprised to see you list talking and reading early as possible signs of ASD since that is not something I had heard before. Just interesting, I love my kid the way she is but want to make sure I’m supporting her as much as we can![/quote]

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