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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nothing.  I do nothing.

In ES, we were told to send in cards for the whole class, so I used to make an effort to do it.

I do not want them to become entitled nightmare in their real romantic relationships.  Also, this is a hallmark holiday. My kids do not think too much of it. [/quote]

You think that if you do something small for your kids this can make them an entitled nightmare in their romantic relationships? Shouldn't they be acknowledging V-Day in their romantic relationshps?[/quote]

No. I do not want them to have an expectation that someone will do something for them for VD. They should be kind and loving to their SO every day (and we model that at home) but a fake holiday is not to be celebrated. Celebrate meaningful dates - birthdays, anniversaries etc, but this is a ridiculous day.  In fact, if they have a good romantic relationship I hope they actually boycott and not celebrate VD (just like we do!!).

I did not grow up in this country so I was not used to VD. The very first year I was here, I was at a Giant doing groceries in the evening and a whole bunch of really nervous and anxious men were at the checkout lane clutching flowers and a box of chocolates in their work clothes.  I realized that these guys are too scared to go home without something for their wives/gfs and they are stopping at Giant to pick up whatever was left on their way back from home.  It was such a disgusting and unromantic sight that I vowed that I would never celebrate this fake holiday. Especially in a country where divorce rates are 50%.

Who are we celebrating anyways??

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Thing is, your future in laws most likely did grow up here celebrating Valentines and expecting reciprocation.  Maybe gift giving isn’t your thing, but it’s a love language for others, and there’s nothing wrong with gifting your significant other with a card and flowers to celebrate a holiday![/quote]

This. And your recollection of men in the store buying items is ridiculous. The men weren't scared. The men weren't nervous or anxious. [b]They were simply doing a task that is, sure, expected of them,[/b] but no more so for a birthday. If this type of sight disgusts you, you should probably relax a little more. [/quote]

Cringe. Why is this particular task expected of them?  Soooo messed up.  This is a task, an expectation, something that is forced upon them, and they are doing it reluctantly or without any thought.   Here is an idea, maybe  let the man show his appreciation how and when he wants to show it!  Maybe it means that once a year he clears the snow on top of your car because he wants to make things easier for you. That is more romantic than buying that cheapie box of chocolates on VD. [/quote]

Some events fall on specific days.  That includes birthdays, Christmas and wedding anniversaries.  And yes, those days include expectations around gift giving.[/quote]

:lol: Birthdays and Anniversaries - yes. These are specific and meaningful to people. In US and around the word, not everyone celebrates Christmas and VD.  Besides, just like Christmas, VD has also become yet another commercial holiday.  It is really not so deep. [/quote]

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